I was having a conversation with my husband, Hamed, the other day about whether it's okay to tell other people about your goals and dreams. We've had this conversation several times before. Most times, he vehemently argued that it is not in fact okay to tell and it can only become an obstacle. It can become an obstacle because there's a huge gap from naming your goals to actually achieving them. If you involve so many in your process of trying to achieve your goals, it will become a boring process for others and soon their lack of enthusiasm and boredom for hearing the same old "dreams" of yours takes away your own confidence and soon enough those goals just become "some old dreams", not in any way achievable. However, if you perhaps "mention" your goals to mentors, to your journal, to your intimate friends and spouse, you won't have to constantly explain yourself about why you haven't achieved your goals yet or really spend the time you would've spent talking to others, actually taking the necessary steps to achieve your goals.
In my opinion, Hamed, though my best friend, is a man! He is definitely not far from the truth. However, I keep arguing that the relationship that women have with each other is different from men. The reason is that women have certain needs of sharing with each other and they readily make it available for others as well. On the other hand, I do agree with what he says because my "womanhood" sometimes is not just that and it is in fact my "childhood" soul within me that is seeking attention {from parents or other family members usually} and thus we know how that can only turn out--to me becoming increasingly uncomfortable and insecure and eventually give up on my dreams. In this way, I have come to the decision that I do like talking about my "business idea" again and again if possible because I need an outlet to let it all out and seek guidance from others. Thus, I have recently come to the decision that I need to either join or make my own "Master Mind" group.
In such a group, meeting once a week or once a month, I can openly share my big, audacious goals but not be afraid of sounding like a broken record or not be afraid of being judged and instead receive honest, helpful advice. The idea of "Master Mind" as I have mentioned in a previous post, was first coined by Napoleon Hill in his very famous book "Think and Grow Rich." I think I finally understand what this step entails--understanding the power of the "Master Mind" group and committing to one. I think in today's age, forming a Master Mind group or joining one could not be more easy because of the world of "Meetup". I already have joined a Meetup group and met a couple of women to hang out with once or twice a month. As for a Master Mind group, I will make it priority sometime this week to look into it more and perhaps first begin by attending a couple of different ones and then perhaps considering the possibility of making one of my own {or with Hamed as he's all on-board with the Master Mind since no one we know intimately is in it--we are so different!) I will share my progress here.
In my opinion, Hamed, though my best friend, is a man! He is definitely not far from the truth. However, I keep arguing that the relationship that women have with each other is different from men. The reason is that women have certain needs of sharing with each other and they readily make it available for others as well. On the other hand, I do agree with what he says because my "womanhood" sometimes is not just that and it is in fact my "childhood" soul within me that is seeking attention {from parents or other family members usually} and thus we know how that can only turn out--to me becoming increasingly uncomfortable and insecure and eventually give up on my dreams. In this way, I have come to the decision that I do like talking about my "business idea" again and again if possible because I need an outlet to let it all out and seek guidance from others. Thus, I have recently come to the decision that I need to either join or make my own "Master Mind" group.
In such a group, meeting once a week or once a month, I can openly share my big, audacious goals but not be afraid of sounding like a broken record or not be afraid of being judged and instead receive honest, helpful advice. The idea of "Master Mind" as I have mentioned in a previous post, was first coined by Napoleon Hill in his very famous book "Think and Grow Rich." I think I finally understand what this step entails--understanding the power of the "Master Mind" group and committing to one. I think in today's age, forming a Master Mind group or joining one could not be more easy because of the world of "Meetup". I already have joined a Meetup group and met a couple of women to hang out with once or twice a month. As for a Master Mind group, I will make it priority sometime this week to look into it more and perhaps first begin by attending a couple of different ones and then perhaps considering the possibility of making one of my own {or with Hamed as he's all on-board with the Master Mind since no one we know intimately is in it--we are so different!) I will share my progress here.
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